Musings on motherhood, mental health and living mindfully even when it feels like chaos reigns

A New Podcast: Conversations with Cristie

I have some exciting news. I started a podcast! I’ll be honest, this baby of mine has been percolating for a long time. This Christmas, my husband (likely sick of hearing me talk about the future podcast) bought me a microphone and headphones so I had one less excuse to put it off.

A Funny Thing Happened

  A funny thing happened a few weeks ago. I wrote a book. Actually, let me back up a few years. I didn’t just write a book last week.

How Do You Find Joy

How do you find joy in the dark? Earlier this week, I spoke with a grief coach, for an episode of my upcoming podcast (more on that later). It

The Power of Saying No

The act of planning for a solo trip while my kids are at home is a most illuminating picture of what Rebekah Borucki calls the Motherload and others refer

Tuning In for Self Preservation

One of the most exciting parts of the women’s retreats I run is witnessing the growth among the members of the group. Almost every woman starts the day looking

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Have you loved the love notes? I hope so. If you want more encouragement, real talk and love delivered right to your inbox, go to the Want More tab in the link in my bio and sign up for my Weekly Wonder Newsletter. You'll get tips, tricks and tales from the trenches, delivered right to your computer door. It helps to feel connected. Promise. ⁠ xoxo, ⁠ CRK⁠ .⁠ .⁠ .⁠ #parenting⁠ #lovenotesformom⁠ #maternalmentalhealth ...

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Dear Pinterest Moms, ⁠ Maybe you don't need to hear this, but I want you to know-don't let us get to you. You know, those of us who can't frost a cupcake properly or make color wheel lunches. Sometimes, in our jealousy, we say mean things about your efforts. Ignore our foolishness. We're sorry. ⁠ ⁠ Pinterest Mom, you celebrate your life-sized rendering of a TRex birthday cake. You pat yourself on the back for your perfectly coordinated themed birthday party with homemade centerpieces. You're amazing and your kids are so lucky to have you. ⁠ ⁠ Just promise me this: you'll only keep doing this stuff as long as you feel good about it. Please, the minute you find it starts to stress you out, or make you feel less than because it's not perfect, then stop. Just stop. ⁠ ⁠ Your kids don't care if the cake is lifelike. They care about the love that you so clearly have for them. So, find a way to keep showing that love in a way that makes you feel good too. ⁠ ⁠ Meanwhile, whatever you decide, please forgive the rest of us for feeling envious of your talents! ⁠ We love you. For real, we're in this thing together-even we if buy our cupcakes at the grocery store. ⁠ Sincerely,⁠ Non-Pinterest Moms.😉⁠ .⁠ .⁠ .⁠ #makeovermotherhood⁠ #parenting⁠ #lovenotesformom⁠ #maternalmentalhealth ...

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Dear Moms of Teenagers, Sorry, I'm afraid we don't pay enough attention to you. For some reason moms of teenagers stop talking to each other and the world seems to stop talking to us as well. There are no mommy groups when your kid starts driving or dating, or waiting tables to earn money for their own car. 😳 The myths are that teenagers are hard and moody and even mean. If this holds true in our houses, we clam up. Who wants to share struggles out loud? Because maybe you'll be judged or lectured or simply outed as a "bad mom". And if it's not true? If your teenager is actually someone you want to spend time around, and you rarely fight or worry? Well then you really shut up. Because you might make other people angry, or jinx your good luck. It seems, moms of teens, you're dammed it you do and if you don't. So, you get quiet. You worry and fret and question as much as you ever did in those early years, but there is no one to share with. I'm here to tell you we're all in the same boat. My truth: sometimes it's a struggle. They're independent human beings who test me at every turn. I worry about their safety. I worry about their mental health. I worry I'm too hard on them. I worry that I'm not hard enough. I worry that they'll hate me if I do or don't do the things right. (Spoiler: I almost never have any idea what all the things are and what is right.) ALSO, sometimes, it's nothing short of glorious. There is laughter and warmth and love. I find them to be spectacular independent human beings who amaze me with their wit and wisdom. I am newly understanding the deepest meaning of proud as I watch them grow. AND I am newly understanding the deepest feeling of loss as I watch them fly away, in search of their own dreams. Both the negative myths and the positive and heartbreaking truth are what shows up in my house on a daily basis. Teenagers, raising them, is messy business. We need each other to help us all get through. Remember I'm here, in it with ya. Reach out when you need a reminder of how great you are. You got this mama. Even when it doesn't feel that way. You're perfect. You rock. You're loved. xoxo, CRK #parentingteens #maternalmeantalhealth ...

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16 Years Ago Today My Mom Died. ⁠ Today, I'm taking a break from Love Notes to share this podcast which may be the ultimate love note. Today's episode brings our favorite @keelafowler back but instead of talking makeup, we're sharing our experiences as daughters forced to say an Earthly Goodbye to our moms too soon. Today's Conversation is one of love and loss and learning how to live a full and rich life without your mom to call when you need her. ⁠ It's honest and raw, sad and even a bit hopeful. Give it a listen. ♥️⁠ Conversations with Cristie-available wherever you listen to podcasts or at the link in my bio. ⁠ .⁠ .⁠ .⁠ #motherlessmothers⁠ #grief⁠ #mentalhealth⁠ #podcast⁠ ...

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Dear Lonely Mom, ⁠ I see you. I'm here for you. I was you. I had no mom, no friends in a new town, no family close by and three tiny kids who needed ALL of me ALL the time. ⁠ I have never felt more alone. ⁠ ⁠ I found connection in the strangest place back then-online. I started blogging and reading others' blogs. We weren't "influencing" back then. There were no perfect pictures of our curated lives. We just wrote and wrote, sharing the truth of our days and supporting one another in the comment sections. ⁠ ⁠ Strange as it may be, that community of online moms was exactly what I needed to feel like I wasn't messing this whole thing up all the time. ⁠ ⁠ So, I'm here for you now. When you feel lost, or alone or hopeless or helpless, I'm here reminding you that you are perfect. In all your messy, complicated love, you are perfect. ⁠ ⁠ When I say you rock. When I say you're doing it all right. When I say that you are the perfect mom for your kids: I'm talking to you. ⁠ ⁠ Yes, you. ⁠ You are not alone. 💕⁠ xoxo, ⁠ CRK⁠ .⁠ .⁠ .⁠ #lovenotesformom⁠ #parenting⁠ #mentalhealth⁠ #motherhood⁠ #maternalmentalhealth ...

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