In this episode of my podcast, I had the pleasure of sitting down with Jeni Simas-Layte, better known as The Intimacy Ally. Jeni is a certified Relationship, Intimacy & Sex Coach who has made it her mission to help women reclaim their sense of self and rediscover their intimacy after trauma. Her journey is nothing short of incredible, as she has overcome personal struggles to become a beacon of hope and empowerment for others.

A Journey of Healing

Jeni’s story is one of resilience. After surviving sexual assault, navigating a difficult marriage, and parenting a non-verbal autistic son, Jeni found herself lost and disconnected from who she truly was. Like so many women, she had become defined by the roles she played—her kids’ mom, her husband’s wife—and her own identity seemed to slip away.

In our conversation, Jeni opened up about how her marriage broke her emotionally, making her question everything she once knew. But through her struggles, she found the strength to rebuild. She shares candidly about how she sought mental health support and ultimately rediscovered herself, turning her pain into a passion for helping other women heal.

Rediscovering Intimacy

One of the most compelling aspects of Jeni’s journey is how she reconnected with her own sexuality. Despite experiencing trauma, she didn’t lose her curiosity or her desire for positive sexual experiences. This curiosity led her down a path of self-discovery, ultimately becoming a certified sex coach. Today, she helps women redefine their relationship with intimacy—whether they’re recovering from trauma or simply navigating complex emotional waters.

We discussed how unlearning societal norms around body image and sex has been a key part of her journey. Jeni’s approach to intimacy isn’t just about sex; it’s about emotional connection, self-esteem, and reclaiming one’s identity.

Empowering Women to Heal

Jeni’s coaching is deeply informed by her life experiences. As a mother to a special needs son, she understands the unique challenges that come with caregiving and balancing personal needs. Her perspective is invaluable for women who feel stuck in their roles, whether as mothers, wives, or caregivers.

She offers 1:1 coaching and group workshops that focus on helping women rediscover their identities, navigate relationship health, and rebuild intimacy. Her work extends beyond just sex—it’s about helping women find joy, connection, and self-empowerment.

Listen to the Episode

If you’re looking for inspiration or guidance on healing from trauma, improving your relationship with intimacy, or reclaiming your sense of self, this episode is for you. Jeni’s story offers hope and practical advice for women who are ready to take control of their lives and rediscover who they truly are.

Tune in to the full episode to hear Jeni’s incredible journey, and be sure to follow her on social media @theintimacyally.

You can also listen to her podcast Story Time with the Intimacy Ally on all platforms. Find it on Spotify here.

Key Takeaways:

  • Jeni’s journey from trauma to empowerment
  • How losing herself in her marriage helped her rediscover her true self
  • The importance of unlearning societal norms around body image and sex
  • Tips on building emotional connection and reclaiming intimacy after trauma

For more about Jeni and her coaching work, visit her website at www.theintimacyally.com.

Stay tuned for more empowering conversations and insights on reclaiming your life after trauma.