Nothing About Motherhood is What I Expected with Audrey Schoen

So many times as Moms we have thoughts and emotions that we can’t share with anyone else. We feel like if someone else knew what was really going on with us, they would take our children away. 

The reality is that so many of the feelings of rage, thoughts of guilt and grieving that we experience are very common. Once we say these secret things out loud, we can begin to get the help we need.

Today’s guest is here to have an extremely honest conversation about her experience as a Mom.

Audrey Schoen is family therapist in CA. She works with law enforcement and families in her practice, but today we are talking more personally about Motherhood. She is a Mom of twins and her husband is in law enforcement. 

Audrey’s wake up call happened when she was 7 weeks pregnant and she found out she was expecting twins. She was angry and immediately knew that her life was going to have a massive change almost immediately.

She had so many complications throughout her pregnancy and even after they were born she ended up back in the hospital while the twins came home. Everything about this experience was not at all what she expected.

Show Highlights:

  • Why Audrey says that being a Mom is mundane.
  • How Audrey managed to breastfeed her twins for 2 years.
  • Ways Audrey’s career changed after she became a Mom of twins.
  • Audrey’s discovery that she’s not great at playing with children.
  • How Audrey was aware of her postpartum depression 
  • Rage and how it was a part of Audrey’s postpartum journey
  • Demystifying the bad thoughts that she experienced
  • Being terrified of the judgment that would come if Audrey’s true thoughts were revealed.
  • The healing power of saying the secret thoughts out loud.
  • How sleep deprivation amplifies postpartum symptoms.
  • Why grieving the losses that you experience after becoming a Mom can help you transition out of it.
  • Audrey shares realizations about raising kids that can relieve some of the guilt.
  • Showers and sunshine became the key to survival for Audrey.
  • Letting go of the unrealistic expectations we have for ourselves.


For courses on Parenting visit Wonderincwellness.com and click parenting supportAudrey’s website: https://Audreylmft.com

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