When preparing for college with your child, many questions and concerns are going to come up. 

Even though I am neither a college counselor nor an expert on college admissions, I have gone through the process twice before with my kids, and I am currently leading a parents club of my own. So, I have many insights to help you stay sane and maintain a healthy relationship with your child as they prepare for college.

The First Step 

In my experience, the first step in guiding your child towards their college journey is knowing they have a unique path to follow and understanding it may differ from the one you took. 

Examining and Managing Your Expectations  

As parents, we must tune into our expectations to avoid them getting in the way when we guide our children in their college journey. We often bring our college-related baggage into this process, so recognize your biases, hopes, and insecurities and address them to ensure that you do not inadvertently impose them on your child.

Having Open Conversations

Talk openly with your partner about your expectations and financial limits, and include your child in the conversation. Discuss your child’s responsibilities and practical aspects of attending college, like student loans and their future financial implications. Honest and forthright conversations will help your child to align their expectations and make informed decisions. Be prepared to listen and support their choices, even if it means considering alternatives to traditional college paths.

Guiding Without Forcing 

Helping your child figure out their next steps should be a collaborative process. Avoid dictating their decisions or forcing them into a specific direction. Instead, offer guidance and let them take the lead, allowing them to explore their options and make informed choices.

Narrowing Down the Options

As you work through the process, narrow down the list of potential colleges based on your financial contribution, geographical preferences, and your child’s interests. It is essential to stay flexible, as their preferences might evolve.

Knowing the College Application Process 

Get to understand the college application process. Learn about early decision, early action, rolling admissions, essays, and financial aid forms for each school your child is considering. That knowledge will help you support your child in the application process without taking over.

Avoid Doing It for Them 

While you might want to write their essays or complete their applications, it is crucial to let them handle the process themselves. That empowers them to take ownership of their future and learn valuable life skills.

A Family Journey

We live in New York, so we explored campuses in our region and around DC during family visits and took our kids to visit various colleges when we traveled around the country. Seeing diverse campus environments and deciding where they felt comfortable helped them know what they wanted in a school.

Being supportive 

College admissions can be unpredictable. Your child may get into unexpected schools or face disappointments. Be supportive and proud of their efforts, and remember that the college experience is just the beginning of their lifelong journey.

Celebrating Acceptance

We believe in celebrating acceptance, as it is a significant achievement. When our kids received acceptance letters, we visited the schools they got into to help them get more excited about their choices.

Understanding the Admissions Process 

Your kid’s school and guidance counselor can provide information on the admissions process, application requirements, and insider…